Have you ever felt kind of jealous of a friend? You know… that one who seems like she has it all together in both her career and personal life! She inspires you, but sometimes being around her also makes you hyper aware of all the ways you’re lacking in life?
Living in the age of social media makes it so easy to get caught up in the dangerous game of comparing ourselves to others. Even though we all know everyone usually only posts the highlights of their life, we can’t help, but feel bad about not measuring up or having our own form of the perfection we’re constantly scrolling through. So how do we break this toxic cycle?
This is a question that’s been on my mind lately and I don’t have the “perfect” answer or solution, but I do have some thoughts to share.
When we see goodness in others lives, it’s only natural to want that for ourselves too. Jealousy is one of those traits we tend to be ashamed or embarrassed of even though we all experience it.
Here’s the thing though – jealousy is just a feeling. We can’t help how we feel, but we can choose how we respond to it. So what would happen if we chose compassion for ourselves when we’re frustrated with our own circumstances or jealous of a friend’s? How would it feel to recognize and acknowledge our struggle rather than judging it?
The answer for me personally has been that I don’t get stuck in a rut for as long. I don’t get so lost in feeling sorry for myself or thinking about how someone else has it better. Because choosing compassion has a way of shifting my focus. It brings my attention back to what I actually do know all about: my own journey.
The only person worth comparing yourself to is… YOU. Because an earlier version of yourself is the only one who can make it clear how much you’ve grown.
When we get caught up in comparing ourselves to others, we usually forget how many details of their story we’re missing. There is some form of difficulty and sacrifice in every situation. We may never know what exactly it took for somebody else to reach where they are in life. But we do know our own story. And that’s the only one that really matters.
Someone else’s story might inspire us, but it’s our personal journey that illustrates our true potential.
So what’s YOUR story? How have you grown over the past year? I’d love to hear in a comment below this post or an email!
Peace and blessings,
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