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A few weeks ago, I said goodbye to some of my very favorite people in the world. And it was pretty tough. As many of you may know, my sister and partner here at Bold True Life, Meimuna, recently moved halfway across the country with her husband and children.
They left on New Year’s Eve. And we’ve all been getting used to the change ever since. It was heartbreaking to see them go, but the experience did lead me to some important realizations. So today, I’m sharing three lessons I learned from saying goodbye to them.
1. Sometimes, distance can bring us closer together. My family is pretty close-knit, but this transition has definitely made me appreciate them all even more than before. And although my sister’s last week in town was a tough one emotionally, it was also really fun. We enjoyed our time together with a sense of awareness that we’d never had to have before.
Our moments become more meaningful when we realize that they’re limited.
2. Feeling pain is easier than avoiding it. This is a lesson I keep on re-learning. When I find myself avoiding something, it’s usually because I’m scared that I’ll get stuck. And feeling stuck in sadness is the last place I want to be. But the irony is that it’s when I wallow in avoidance that I actually get stuck. Because avoiding the pain prolongs the experience. So this time around, I gave myself permission to cry and feel my grief about the change before it even happened. And honestly, it made the day that they left so much easier. I was able to say goodbye with a real smile on my face. I’d found strength through feeling my pain.
3. We’re all in this together. My husband has been such a blessing for me in the midst of this transition. Getting used to the change would’ve been much harder without him by side and I’m so grateful for how often he went out of his way to comfort me throughout this process. It was also really helpful hearing him express that he’ll miss them too. Having those same conversations with my parents made a big difference for me as well. Instead of feeling more sad because the rest of the family was too, talking about it helped us all feel less alone in our sadness.
Most of our struggles involve and include other people. So we might as well support and lean on each other.
Goodbyes are always difficult…. Even when there’s a good reason. And thankfully, there was a great reason for this one. An opportunity that my brother-in-law worked really hard for. So as much as we hated to see them go, we’re also very excited for my sister and her family. And I can’t wait to go visit them!
When’s the last time you said goodbye to someone? And what did you learn from the experience? Please share in a comment below this post or an email. I LOVE reading your answers and responding back!
Peace and blessings,
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