Have you got a secret? Something that affects your life, but you’re not comfortable sharing with others? Maybe it’s a problem that doesn’t feel safe to talk about yet. One that’s so overwhelming you’re not even sure how to start processing it. Or perhaps it’s the opposite. An issue that doesn’t seem “big” enough to have such a tremendous impact on your life… hanging out just below the surface, yet unworthy of being discussed. It might even be a secret about something good. A happy or exciting situation, but the idea of talking about it just feels so vulnerable.
There are all kinds of secrets. And I’ve definitely kept every type mentioned above. So has Meimuna. We all do this. Because secrets are natural. Sometimes they protect us. Keeping us safe while we take time to process and deal with a situation or prepare ourselves for its aftermath. But secrets can also hold us hostage. Trapping us in a toxic prison.
This is also something both my sister and I have experienced. A dichotomous truth that we’ve encountered both in our personal journeys as well as with our clients.
Secrets serve a purpose, but they also stifle us.
They can hold us back from developing meaningful relationships or taking exciting opportunities. Because when we’re uncomfortable with a truth about ourselves, taking any chances (even small ones) that have to do with the matter can feel like a huge risk. Far too scary territory to step into.
Keeping a secret often leaves us feeling locked up from the inside out. While the key to our freedom lies in embracing our truth.
Getting comfortable with our secrets is certainly challenging though. It takes courage. A willingness to be uncomfortable in the process. And the grit to keep going – digging deeper into some of the most agonizing aspects of ourselves. It’s brutal every time I do it.
But the journey’s not all terrible. Delving into these thorny parts of myself has also lead to some of my best moments. Although my secrets feel excruciatingly heavy when I start and during the process, I always feel lighter by the end of it. And I gain so much from the exploration. I’ve learned really important lessons from looking at the parts of myself that I usually censor. Contending with my secrets has helped me become more resilient too. By stretching myself in this way, I’ve experienced my potential for expansion rather than breaking or falling apart.
Secrets are powerful. They give us the opportunity to find strength and wisdom within our pain.
This is why my sister and I are so excited to be launching our new project this week! The Secret Lives of Muslim Women is officially here. Because we know that your secrets are a gateway to your best you yet! They might feel like shackles right now, but you can use your secrets to liberate yourself. To grow a little more into your true self every day. The first step to freedom is owning your secret… even if nobody else knows it, but you. And we’ve created an anonymous portal to help you do just that. It’s got three questions to get you thinking about your secret in a whole new way.
We’ll be sharing some of these anonymous secrets along with our two cents as life coaches and some helpful resources exclusively to our Bold True Tribe. So if you’re not a BTL insider yet, now would be a great time to join! You can sign up (FOR FREE) through the form at the end of this blog post.
Have you ever felt trapped by a secret? We’d SO love and appreciate if you’d take a few minutes to share (anonymously!) about the experience. You’ll be helping yourself AND your BTL community. Fill out the short (but meaningful) form right here.
Peace and blessings,
P.S. – Are you feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or uninspired by your life? Is there a challenge you’re facing or goal you’d like to work towards? If you’re ready to take a bold, true leap in your life, I can help you. Click here to schedule a FREE discovery session with me.