Navigating in this world as a sensitive person can, sometimes, feel like an act of rebellion. We live in a culture that celebrates “toughing it out”, “putting on a brave face”, “hustling”, “faking it till you make it”, etc…
Ideas like this are meant to be encouraging, but hearing them over and over again can leave me feeling not so good about myself. Letting my guard down and actually BEING sensitive doesn’t always seem like a brave or viable option. I used to beat myself up about this – I didn’t get why it was so hard for me to just “be strong” and handle things according to that messaging above. But every time I tried, I never seemed to get it quite right and it didn’t feel good or real.
Over the years, I began realizing that maybe MY roadmap for navigating the world is different than the one we usually hear about. With the help of teachers and mentors, I started opening myself up to the possibility that my experience and practice of strength might look and feel different than the one I was trying so hard to achieve. It was through this process of exploration and experimenting with a new way of being that I learned how to authentically step into my power. Starting to function in the world from this perspective was a game-changer!
This practice of authentically stepping into my power definitely isn’t effortless, but it’s so much easier than trying to fit into a mold that doesn’t resonate with me. It’s a way of being and doing that allows me to take my whole self into account. It gives me the opportunity to listen to all the signals that my mind and body are sending me.
Last week I talked about the strength I found in being sensitive. In this post, I’m sharing how I cultivate and take care of this strength so that it serves me best.
One of my favorite things about being sensitive is that I can recognize how a situation makes me feel. And this recognition emboldens me to decide how I want to proceed.
The power lies within the feelings. Tuning into them leads to clarity. Clarity leads to empowered decisions.
I’m about to share some of my favorite ways to sit with and make sense of feelings. But first, here’s a quick reminder that there are often layers to our feelings. Working through them all takes time. Every layer matters because within each one you’ll be uncovering a piece of your truth.
And one more reminder that having a wide range of emotions is natural and healthy. Certain emotions don’t feel great, but that doesn’t make them bad or shameful. To let any feeling go, you first have to feel it. Next time you find yourself wanting to judge an emotion, try and see if you can make space for it instead. Let it in so that you can let it out.
If you decide to test any of these techniques out, be gentle with yourself and take your time. If it starts to feel overwhelming, take a breather. Come back when you’re ready to keep going.
Ok. We’re FINALLY getting to the actual point!
Below are three of my go-to techniques for gaining clarity around feelings:
1. Journaling: Do you ever get overwhelmed by your thoughts?
Getting those thoughts out of your head and onto paper is really useful for clearing the mind clutter and for making connections. Journaling is a great way to let everything on your mind and in your heart out. Write it all down. Every good, bad, and in-between feeling and emotion. Brain dump. It doesn’t need to be pretty or make perfect sense.
It’s a journal entry that’s meant for your eyes only. You can even rip it up after if you want. The process of writing is sometimes all we need to release thoughts and the emotional weight that we carry with them. It’s certainly been a profound experience for me time and time again.
I know that staring at a blank page can be daunting sometimes so here are a couple of prompts you can use to get started:
How do I feel?
What do I want?
If my body could talk, it would say…
What is the kindest thing I can do for myself right now?
Set a timer for 5-10 minutes and see what comes out.
2. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT): This is THE best tool I’ve experienced for working through emotions. It’s something I personally use almost every day and it’s also a practice I teach and guide my clients through.
What I love most about this practice is how relaxed I often feel at the end of it. The actual issue may not go away, but the tension I feel around it is gone. Releasing this tension and shifting my perspective allows me to handle the situation with more ease and grace than I would have otherwise.
It’s a rather simple process, but it does sound a little weird if you’ve never done it before. You’re going to have to trust me on this one and try it 🙂
Here’s how it works: You use your own fingers to tap on certain acupressure points while thinking or talking about an issue that you’re struggling with. Focusing on the issue at the same time as you tap on these points helps to calm the nervous system and clear energetic/emotional blockages.
The beauty of EFT is that once you learn how to do it it, you can use it whenever you want.
You can learn more about the technique here.
3. Seek out Support: Sometimes the things we struggle with or want to work on are too much to face or handle alone. Thankfully, there are plenty of ways to get support.
Trustworthy family/friends, counseling, and coaching are all great options.
There are also support groups and hotlines we can reach out to.
Taking the first step and asking for help is scary, but it’s totally worth it.
Seeking support has been a pivotal piece of my journey. Working with counselors and coaches and turning to family and friends is what keeps me going and following my path when it starts to feel impossible. In those moments, days, and weeks that I’m exhausted and almost ready to give up, I know it’s time to get some help.
The sources of support we turn to simply reflect back the strength that’s already within us.
Getting this support is an opportunity to: be and feel heard, get constructive feedback and ideas, and build a team that has your back as you move through life.
Ok, that’s all I’ve got. These three tools for tuning in to myself and my feelings are the ones I come back to over and over again. They help me get re-grounded when it starts I start to lose my footing, reconnect me to my authentic power, and allow me to step into it with confidence.
I hope you find these techniques as helpful as I do! If you have any questions about them, please feel free to reach out.
And let me know how they go if you try any of them out!
The answers you’re looking for are usually within you. All you have to do is listen.
Peace and blessings,
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